Gina from Yonkers asked Karen:
I am about to hit 60 and very newly divorced. I was awarded the house. My oldest daughter just gave birth and she and her husband are not financially set and have asked if they could move in with me. I know she wants and needs her mother's support (along with a built-in babysitter) but I'm about to start a new life and part of me is hesitant to say yes. And in some way I feel like if I let them move in then they will get too comfortable and never venture out on their own. Am I being selfish. Do I have a right to be? What would you do?
This is a tough one. I know you want to do what is best for your daughter and her family BUT you deserve to have your own life in your own home without obligations to your daughters family. If they truly can't afford a place of their own, then I think you should put a time limit on how long they can stay with you. This way they will be more motivated to move from your home and start and independent life of their own.
Good luck and enjoy the new baby, but again don't let them think that you are at their disposal to babysit.
Diane from Connecticut asked:
I just turned 70 last week. Not 1 of my Grandchildren (who are all adults) called me or sent a card. Should I be more mad at them or my own children who raised them and what would be my best way to react to all of them?
I know how hurt you must be by not being contacted on your special birthday with cards or calls from your grandchildren. This is the world we live in now. I know that I am very happy when my grandchildren call me (which is rarely) but they will answer my texts or emails.
I think the blame lies with all parents who do not emphasize how much it means to grandparents to hear from their grandchildren, however their being adults they should have figured this out themselves. Unfortunately the culture we are part of seems to not place much importance on cards and what they mean to the receiver.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY DIANE! ....Karen